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Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Necessary Endings


Today may be the enemy of your tomorrow. 

In your business and personal life, the tomorrow you desire may not come to pass if you don't end some things you are doing today.

Learn how to:
  • Know when to have realistic hope and when to execute a "necessary ending" in a business, or with an individual;
  • Identify which employees, strategies, projects, activities, and relationships are worth nurturing and which are not;
  • Overcome resistance to change and create change that works;
  • Create urgency and an action plan for what's life or death to the business;
  • Change the business' culture from stuck to moving ahead;
  • Stop wasting resources needed for things that really matter.


Necessary Endings
The Employees, Businesses, and Relationships That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Move Forward
Henry Cloud
ISBN: 9780061777127

"Great is the art of the beginning, but greater is the art of ending," Henry Wadsworth Longfellow once observed. There is a time and a season for everything and this must be acknowledged by all people. Businesses are constantly letting go of old product lines or restructuring divisions within large corporations. 

In relationships of marriage and friendship, people do occasionally need to say goodbye and move on to other pursuits. 

But often we are stuck for a long time, unable to muster the strength or the courage to let go of our attachments.

In this accessible and well-done book, Henry Cloud, a psychologist and leadership consultant, explores the benefits that accrue to those who have the sense and the courage to end something they have invested time and energy in for a long time. 

There are five internal maps that put a hold on endings:

1.having a high pain threshold, 
2. covering for others, 
3.believing that coming to the end of something means failure, 
4. misunderstood loyalty, and 
5.codependent mapping. 

Cloud puts a positive spin on things when he writes:

"Endings are a part of every aspect of life. 
When done well, the seasons of life are negotiated, and the proper endings lead to the end of pain, greater growth, personal and business goals reached, and better lives. 
Endings bring hope."

Using the example of the pruning, Cloud shows that although it seems to be destructive, it is actually a way to keep the plant healthy by throwing away dead branches and giving the best buds a break by taking away others. 

In chapters on identifying people you can trust, creating urgency, tackling internal and external barriers, having the conversation and embracing the grief; the author show how "endings are a natural part of the universe, and your life and business must face them, or stagnate, or die." 

Necessary Endings by Henry Cloud is a practical and stimulating assessment of this fact in our professional and personal lives.

Cutting your losses. Raising the white flag. Getting out while you can. Giving up.  

While endings are a natural part of life, we often experience them with a sense of sadness, hesitation, resignation, or regret. 

Psychologist and bestselling author Dr. Henry Cloud sees endings differently, though, and he asks a powerful question: 

How different would our personal and professional lives be if, rather than viewing these endings as failures, we saw them as necessary steps for creating the possibility of something better?

In Necessary Endings, Dr. Cloud demonstrates that, when done well, 'necessary endings' allow us to stop pain, foster growth, reach personal and business goals, and live better lives. 

When done poorly though, good opportunities are lost, and misery either remains or is repeated. While we all face these kinds of endings daily, Dr. Cloud finds that most of us fall in the latter category and don't handle endings very well---and we need help. 

In this new book, Dr. Cloud draws on years of experience as an executive coach and therapist and offers a mixture of advice and anecdotes that will do several things to address this need:

*Bring awareness to the necessity of endings in life, similar to what Cloud did with his extremely popular Boundaries series. 

*Normalize the concept so that you can see it as a regular part of life.

*Help you see the need for endings in all facets of life, both personal and professional.

*Show you why you have not been able to negotiate endings well.

*Show you how to do it and make it go well.

*Cast a vision for a better future, one where the pain of being stuck has ended, and there is space for good things.

*Help you understand the process of endings so that you can metabolize the lessons and experience and thereby not repeat them.

Knowing when and how to let go when something isn't working---whether it's a career choice, business venture, or personal relationship---is essential for happiness and success. 

In Necessary Endings, Dr. Cloud gives you the tools you need to begin pruning the bad and the broken from your life so the good may begin growing again.

Learn concepts straight from Dr. Henry Cloud’s newest book, Necessary Endings.

Wise, Fools, and Evil:

In every interaction, whether with employees, customers, or teammates, you are most likely dealing with a person who falls into one of three categories: wise, foolish, or evil. 

The problem is that most of us deal with everyone in the same way, and that does not work. 

You must know how to tell which is which and what to do with each in order to get results.

In this session, Dr. Cloud will address how to deal successfully with the three different types of people you lead and interact with - wise people, foolish people, and evil people. 

He will help you spot these different types of behavior, discuss the challenges of dealing with each, and present effective solutions to help you move forward. 

This session will challenge you to think and react differently to the people and situations that are holding you back.


In this session, Dr. Cloud will teach on the concept of pruning, which is removing the unwanted or superfluous in your organization. 

He will discuss the employees, businesses, and relationships that we all must give up in order for us to move forward. 

The content will serve as a diagnostic to help you see the things and people that are getting in the way of the success of your vision, whether dead, sick, or healthy, and the session will give you the practical tools that you need for you and your team to move forward.

  "Endings are a crucial way to get what we desire by shedding those things whose time has passed. The author addresses the benefits of concluding unsatisfying work or personal relationships, and he advises readers on diagnosing when the situation can be resuscitated or must be shut down. 

This 'pruning' process can spark readers out of passivity or paralysis, getting them motivated and energized for change. 

With many examples of people moving on from untenable circumstances and through specific strategies for ending things well, Cloud advocates for powerful personal changes just in time for the New Year, and will give many readers the fresh start they crave." 

Publishers Weekly

Necessary Endings - Dr. Henry Cloud