The greatest challenge is stating the problem in a way that will allow a solution.

Saturday, December 10, 2016

Jon Kabat Zinn - Emotional Pain Is Worse


 
Published on Jan 12, 2016
Jon
Kabat-Zinn (born Kabat on June 5, 1944) is Professor of Medicine
Emeritus and creator of the Stress Reduction Clinic and the Center for
Mindfulness in Medicine, Health Care, and Society at the University of
Massachusetts Medical School.

Kabat-Zinn was a student of Buddhist
teachers such as Thich Nhat Hanh and Zen Master Seung Sahn and a
founding member of Cambridge Zen Center. 

His practice of yoga and
studies with Buddhist teachers led him to integrate their teachings with
those of science. 

He teaches mindfulness, which he says can help people
cope with stress, anxiety, pain, and illness. 

The stress reduction
program created by Kabat-Zinn, called Mindfulness-based stress
reduction, is offered by medical centers, hospitals, and health
maintenance organizations.






Wednesday, December 7, 2016

Stephen Hawking's message for depression sufferers



Stephen Hawking's beautiful message for anyone who suffers from depression:
 
 

Stephen Hawking Has A Beautiful Message For Anyone Who Suffers From Depression

 

This is incredibly inspiring from Stephen Hawking.

Even though he usually speaks about physics and the forces that govern the Universe, he decided to turn his intelligence to help those in need.
 
At a packed lecture theater, he had these words to say to those who are suffering with depression:

“The message of this lecture is that black holes ain’t as black as they are painted. They are not the eternal prisons they were once thought.

“Things can get out of a black hole both on the outside and possibly to another universe. So if you feel you are in a black hole, don’t give up – there’s a way out…

Remember to look up at the stars and not down at your feet. Try to make sense of what you see and wonder about what makes the universe exist. Be curious. And however difficult life may seem, there is always something you can do and succeed at.

It matters that you don’t just give up.”

 

As a man who has overcome such incredible obstacles and lived such a brave and amazing life, this advice couldn’t come from a better place.






Saturday, November 26, 2016

Quotes: psychoanalyst, Erich Fromm

 Change The Way You See Yourself and the World
BY SOFO ARCHON
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Below are some quotes from the German social psychologist, psychoanalyst, sociologist, and humanistic philosopher Erich Fromm.




“I want the loved person to grow and unfold for his own sake, and in his own ways, and not for the purpose of serving me.”

“Man’s main task in life is to give birth to himself, to become what he potentially is. The most important product of his effort is his own personality.”


“To die is poignantly bitter, but the idea of having to die without having lived is unbearable.”


“Care and responsibility are constituent elements of love, but without respect for and knowledge of the beloved person, love deteriorates into domination and possessiveness.”

“Robots do not rebel.”

“The quest for certainty blocks the search for meaning. Uncertainty is the very condition to impel man to unfold his powers.”

“Man may be defined as the animal that can say “I,” that can be aware of himself as a separate entity.”

“Selfish persons are incapable of loving others, but they are not capable of loving themselves either.”

“Reason is man’s faculty for grasping the world by thought, in contradiction to intelligence, which is man’s ability to manipulate the world with the help of thought. Reason is man’s instrument for arriving at the truth, intelligence is man’s instrument for manipulating the world more successfully; the former is essentially human, the latter belongs to the animal part of man.”

“Love is often nothing but a favorable exchange between two people who get the most of what they can expect, considering their value on the personality market.”

“The narcissistic, the domineering, the possessive woman can succeed in being a “loving” mother as long as the child is small. Only the really loving woman, the woman who is happier in giving than in taking, who is firmly rooted in her own existence, can be a loving mother when the child is in the process of separation.”

“Just as love for one individual which excludes the love for others is not love, love for one’s country which is not part of one’s love for humanity is not love, but idolatrous worship.”

“If I am what I have and if I lose what I have who then am I?”

“The sadistic person is as dependent on the submissive person as the latter is on the former; neither can live without the other.”

“In love the paradox occurs that two beings become one and yet remain two.”

“We consume, as we produce, without any concrete relatedness to the objects with which we deal; We live in a world of things, and our only connection with them is that we know how to manipulate or to consume them.”

“Respect is not fear and awe; it denotes, in accordance with the root of the word (respicere = to look at), the ability to see a person as he is, to be aware of his individuality and uniqueness.”

“In the nineteenth century the problem was that God is dead; in the twentieth century the problem is that man is dead.”

“Man is the only animal for whom his own existence is a problem which he has to solve and from which he cannot escape.”

“What most people in our culture mean by being lovable is essentially a mixture between being popular and having sex appeal.”

“One cannot be deeply responsive to the world without being saddened very often.”

“If a person loves only one other person and is indifferent to all others, his love is not love but a symbiotic attachment, or an enlarged egotism.”

“Immature love says: “I love you because I need you.” Mature love says: “I need you because I love you.”

“Most people die before they are fully born. Creativeness means to be born before one dies.”


“Even good deeds by the enemy are considered a sign of particular devilishness, meant to deceive us and the world, while our bad deeds are necessary and justified by our noble goals which they serve.”

“Society must be organized in such a way that man’s social, loving nature is not separated from his social existence, but becomes one with it. If it is true, as I have tried to show, that love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence, then any society which excludes, relatively, the development of love, must in the long run perish of its own contradiction with the basic necessities of human nature.”

“The same polarity of the male and female principle exists in nature; not only, as is obvious in animals and plants, but in the polarity of the two fundamental functions, that of receiving and penetrating. It is the polarity of earth and rain, of the river and the ocean, of night and day, of darkness and light, of matter and spirit.”

“The existential split in man would be unbearable could he not establish a sense of unity within himself and with the natural and human world outside.”

“Creativity requires the courage to let go of certainties.”

“The danger of the past was that men became slaves. The danger of the future is that men may become robots.”

“Love is not primarily a relationship to a specific person; it is an attitude, an ordination of character which determines the relatedness of the person to the whole world as a whole, not toward one object of love.”

“Only the person who has faith in himself is able to be faithful to others.”

“I believe that man is the product of natural evolution that is born from the conflict of being a prisoner and separated from nature, and from the need to find unity and harmony with it.”

“All men are in need of help and depend on one another. Human solidarity is the necessary condition for the unfolding of any one individual.”

“To love one person productively means to be related to his human core, to him as representing mankind. Love for one individual, in so far as it is divorced from love for man, can refer only to the superficial and to the accidental; of necessity it remains shallow.”

“Men are born equal but they are also born different.”

“The only truly affluent are those who do not want more than they have.”

“To hope means to be ready at every moment for that which is not yet born, and yet not become desperate if there is no birth in our lifetime.”

“The sick individual finds himself at home with all other similarly sick individuals. The whole culture is geared to this kind of pathology. The result is that the average individual does not experience the separateness and isolation the fully schizophrenic person feels. He feels at ease among those who suffer from the same deformation; in fact, it is the fully sane person who feels isolated in the insane society — and he may suffer so much from the incapacity to communicate that it is he who may become psychotic. In the context of this study the crucial question is whether the hypothesis of a quasi-autistic or of low-grade schizophrenic disturbance would help us to explain some of the violence spreading today.”

“The successful revolutionary is a statesman, the unsuccessful one a criminal.”

“Both dreams and myths are important communications from ourselves to ourselves. If we do not understand the language in which they are written, we miss a great deal of what we know and tell ourselves in those hours when we are not busy manipulating the outside world.”

“Love is an action, the practice of human power, which can be practiced only in freedom and never as a result of compulsion.”

“The revolutionary and critical thinker is in a certain way always outside of his society while of course he is at the same time also in it.”

“Attractive’ usually means a nice package of qualities which are popular and sought after on the personality market.”

“That millions of people share the same forms of mental pathology does not make these people sane.”

“Neurosis can be understood best as the battle between tendencies within an individual; deep character analysis leads, if successful, to the progressive solution.”

“I believe that none can ‘save’ his fellow man by making a choice for him. To help him, he can indicate the possible alternatives, with sincerity and love, without being sentimental and without illusion. The knowledge and awareness of the freeing alternatives can reawaken in an individual all his hidden energies and put him on the path to choosing respect for ‘life’ instead of for ‘death.'”

“Just as love is an orientation which refers to all objects and is incompatible with the restriction to one object, so is reason a human faculty which must embrace the whole of the world with which man is confronted.”

“There is only one meaning of life: the act of living itself.”

“Reason flows from the blending of rational thought and feeling. If the two functions are torn apart, thinking deteriorates into schizoid intellectual activity and feeling deteriorates into neurotic life-damaging passions.”

“Who will tell whether one happy moment of love or the joy of breathing or walking on a bright morning and smelling the fresh air, is not worth all the suffering and effort which life implies.”

“As we ascend the social ladder, viciousness wears a thicker mask.”

“Man is born as a freak of nature, being within nature and yet transcending it.”

“I believe that love is the main key to open the doors to the “growth” of man. Love and union with someone or something outside of oneself, union that allows one to put oneself into relationship with others, to feel one with others, without limiting the sense of integrity and independence.”

“The mature response to the problem of existence is love.”

“Modern man, if he dared to be articulate about his concept of heaven, would describe a vision which would look like the biggest department store in the world, showing new things and gadgets, and himself having plenty of money with which to buy them. He would wander around open-mouthed in this heaven of gadgets and commodities, provided only that there were ever more and newer things to buy, and perhaps that his neighbors were just a little less privileged than he.”

“Love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith, and whoever is of little faith is also of little love.”

“There is no meaning to life except the meaning man gives his life by the unfolding of his powers.”

“Not he who has much is rich, but he who gives much.”

“Education makes machines which act like men and produces men who act like machines.”

“As long as anyone believes that his ideal and purpose is outside him, that it is above the clouds, in the past or in the future, he will go outside himself and seek fulfillment where it cannot be found. He will look for solutions and answers at every point except where they can be found – in himself.”

“In erotic love, two people who were separate become one. In motherly love, two people who were one become separate. The mother must not only tolerate, she must wish and support the child’s separation.”

“Destructiveness is the outcome of unlived lives.”












Source: http://theunboundedspirit.com/erich-fromm-quotes/



Tuesday, November 22, 2016

Living with a sense of purpose in life




Conclusion:

A sense of purpose in life also gives you this considerable advantage:
"People with a sense of purpose in life have a lower risk of death and cardiovascular disease."

The conclusions come from over 136,000 people who took part in 10 different studies.

Participants in the studies were mostly from the US and Japan.


The US studies asked people:
  • how useful they felt to others,
  • about their sense of purpose, and
  • the meaning they got out of life.


The Japanese studies asked people about ‘ikigai’ or whether their life was worth living.

The participants, whose average age was 67, were tracked for around 7 years.

During that time almost 20,000 died.
 
But, amongst those with a strong sense of purpose or high ‘ikigai’, the risk of death was one-fifth lower.

Despite the link between sense of purpose and health being so intuitive, scientists are not sure of the mechanism.

Sense of purpose is likely to improve health by strengthening the body against stress.

It is also likely to be linked to healthier behaviours.

Dr. Alan Rozanski, one of the study’s authors, said:
“Of note, having a strong sense of life purpose has long been postulated to be an important dimension of life, providing people with a sense of vitality motivation and resilience.
Nevertheless, the medical implications of living with a high or low sense of life purpose have only recently caught the attention of investigators.
The current findings are important because they may open up new potential interventions for helping people to promote their health and sense of well-being.”

This research on links between sense of purpose in life and longevity is getting stronger all the time:
  • “A 2009 study of 1,238 elderly people found that those with a sense of purpose lived longer.
  • A 2010 study of 900 older adults found that those with a greater sense of purpose were much less likely to develop Alzheimer’s disease.
  • Survey data often links a sense of purpose in life with increased happiness.
No matter what your age, then, it’s worth thinking about what gives your life meaning.”



Read More:

Find out what kinds of things people say give their lives meaning.
Here’s an exercise for increasing meaningfulness
And a study finding that feeling you belong increases the sense of meaning.

The study was published in the journal Psychosomatic Medicine (Cohen et al., 2015).




A sense of purpose in life
Link: http://www.spring.org.uk/2015/12/here-is-why-a-sense-of-purpose-in-life-is-important-for-health

Things You Can Do To Change Your Life

CHANGE YOUR LIFE


Things You Can Do To Change Your Life 


    You are constantly changing, but it’s hard to notice.

    It’s not even a question of if you’re changing. It’s a question of in which direction are you changing.

    Below are things you can do to change your life:

    Take small steps. Enjoy the process. Have fun.

    Know your Current Situation and where you want to go from there.  It helps to break big goals down into manageable steps.


    Be Patient

    Be determined to succeed. 


    Face Your Fears

    No Excuses

     Take Responsibility

       Flow  
    Narrow Focus

    Read

    Change is inevitable. It’s all about in what direction you’re changing.

    Risk Failure
    You will make mistakes.

    And you won’t even know if they are mistakes when you make them, because mistakes and failures are 
skipping stones to success.



The Science and Practise of Happiness



Uploaded on Jul 1, 2011

Is happiness a skill? Modern neuroscientific research and the wisdom of ancient contemplative traditions converge in suggesting that happiness is the product of skills that can be enhanced through training and such training exemplifies how transforming the mind can change the brain. 

Kent Berridge, Richie Davidson, and Daniel Gilbert speak at the Aspen Ideas Festival
.



Sunday, November 20, 2016

Creat






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Jon Kabat Zinn : Cure Depression And Anxiety - GUIDED MEDITATION


Published on Jul 11, 2016
Cure Depression And Anxiety - GUIDED MEDITATION

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Jon
Kabat-Zinn (born Kabat on June 5, 1944) is Professor of Medicine
Emeritus and creator of the Stress Reduction Clinic and the Center for
Mindfulness in Medicine, Health Care, and Society at the University of
Massachusetts Medical School. Kabat-Zinn was a student of Buddhist
teachers such as Thich Nhat Hanh and Zen Master Seung Sahn and a
founding member of Cambridge Zen Center. His practice of yoga and
studies with Buddhist teachers led him to integrate their teachings with
those of science. He teaches mindfulness, which he says can help people
cope with stress, anxiety, pain, and illness.https://youtu.be/LtZpy02SFk4

Friday, November 18, 2016

Albert Bandura interview by Inside the Psychologist's Studio


Published on Dec 20, 2013
The Association for Psychological Science presents Inside the Psychologist's Studio featuring Albert Bandura.


Thursday, November 17, 2016

Albert Bandura Quotes


Stanford University
STANFORD UNIVERSITY


Professor Bandura is an extraordinarily innovative scholar whose pioneering work in social cognitive theory has served as a rich resource for academics, practitioners, and policy makers alike across disciplinary lines.

His illustrative career includes groundbreaking work across a broad range of areas. His seminal research on social modeling expanded our view of human learning and the growing primacy of this mode of learning in this electronic era.

His later research on self-regulatory mechanisms laid the theoretical foundation for his theory of human agency.

These diverse programs of research blend his theoretical interests with an abiding concern for the use of our knowledge for human enlightenment and betterment.


Albert Bandura (born December 4, 1925) is a prominent psychologist, known as the originator of social learning theory and the theory of self-efficacy.

 
Citation: Gold Medal Award for Distinguished Lifetime Contribution to
Psychological Science, American Psychological Foundation, 2006.


 

Quotes

  • If self-efficacy is lacking, people tend to behave ineffectually, even though they know what to do.

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