How to Hang on to Happiness: 4 Myths and 5 Real Strategies
Is there a way to stay joyous?
Let’s start with four myths:
- “Don’t worry, be happy”
This misunderstanding has us indulging in all kinds of “if only” thinking —that erasing one bad thing in our lives will necessarily make us instantly happy. “If only I had a better job, I’d be happy.” “If only my relationship to my lover/spouse/parent/sibling were better, I’d be happier.” "If only I made more money, I’d be happier.”
In fact, two separate behavioral systems govern our reactivity to positive and negative events in our lives so that worrying and being happy operate independently.