Here are a few ways to begin to process your loss:
1. Remember that grief is natural. It’s important to keep in mind that your experience is real and a natural part of being human. Everything you feel is perfectly normal, which brings me to the next point.
2. Allow yourself to feel whatever you feel. Grief stirs up a wide range of emotions. It’s very common to feel anger, hostility, anxiety or numbness. You might feel afraid or disoriented by sudden change. Whatever you feel, it’s ok.
3. Talk about it. Talk with good friends or consider joining a grief support group. Depending upon the loss, you might be best served by seeking help from a good psychotherapist. Whatever you choose, talking will help the healing begin.
4. Keep a journal. While talking will have you feel connected, writing about your emotions will help you clarify and understand your feelings. Write every day as your feelings and thoughts will shift and change over time. It’s a great way to externalize your experience.
5. Take care of your body. It’s important to support your process with good food, lots of rest and daily exercise. Moving your body helps you move through your feelings.
The more you are present to your loss and grief, the deeper your growth and understanding. With your loving attention, you’ll move to new levels of awareness and gain valuable skills to deal with future loss, which will surely happen. Loss is just another facet of our humanity, as is love, joy and peace.